Sunday, January 15, 2012

Maura's Birthday

I had a very last minute work trip to Detroit right after the holidays - perfect timing since I hadn't seen my Dad in awhile AND it was Maura's 19th birthday (pics below). It's amazing how Maura got to be 19 yet I'm holding strong at 27. Strange how that happens. I visited Dad each day and we went to dinner a couple of times with Katie and Maura and her friend Natalie. I think he likes that he's surrounded by beautiful women everywhere he goes :)

The additional speech therapy is paying off, although some prompting is still needed it felt like my Dad was more able to get his point across. We were talking about electric cars and how his friend Dennis has come full circle during his retirement and is now working to promote electric vehicles. Dennis must have told my Dad all about it when they went to dinner before Thanksgiving because he knew exactly what I was talking about. I think my Dad will be forever amused by Dennis and all the interesting and funny stories he always has.

The speech therapist surprised Katie and me by helping my Dad make us birthday cards. They were so sweet and such a surprise. I thought I was done being emotional about how things are different these days, but that card caught me way off guard. Since my Dad is out of therapy for a little while, I brought in some supplies so we could make a card for Maura. We talked through what he wanted to write on the card and then I clearly wrote it out for him to look at. We took one practice run and then he wrote it out himself. Dave was all business, it was like he sat down to take his SAT's. He knew exactly when he made a mistake but wasn't able to correct it (I should have brought a pencil). All were very simple fixes and then he could see it was correct and he'd move on to the next letter. He wasn't really into the stickers I bought, he likes things clean and simple these days, but I vetoed him and he reluctantly consented. Always the smart man.

One of the things I find amazing, but not surprising, about my Dad is that there isn't a resident, nurse, or employee at Martha T. Berry that doesn't know Dave. He doesn't talk much but everyone knows his name and he makes a point to say hi to everyone he knows when we go for walks. I used to say the same thing growing up, it didn't seem like there was a single person in Algonac that didn't know (and love) Dave Batchelder. Katie and Maura just experienced the phenomenon crossing back from Canada when the border patrol agent saw Katie's license and said, do you know Dave or Keri? (he just happened to be an old friend of mine that my dad helped out in high school by racing over to patch a hole my friend punched in his wall before his parents got home).

Remember - if you go visit and Dave isn't in his room he's pretty easy to find. He will be somewhere between his room and the front entrance. There is a common area between the pair of elevators on both the first and second floor - sometimes he goes in there to watch the activities and visit with people. Dave is always the early riser and on the move. He gets around perfectly fine on his own (but expect to push if you are together).
I put this pic on facebook and feel it necessary to explain again,
Maura is in 3" heels and I am not shrinking :)

Monday, January 9, 2012

January 2012

I had a last minute trip to Michigan for work (12 hours notice) so the good news is I got to visit with my dad last week. I saw a few things at Martha T Berry where he lives that I hadn't seen before like this huge bird cage. More of a habitat really. I've walked by it a dozen times and never noticed I guess.

I'll post more later in the week but tonight we were looking at some pictures from my dad's 60th birthday party and what he really called attention to was how much hair he and Dennis had back then and how dark it was. Pretty funny actually! 

Sunday, December 25, 2011

Merry Christmas!!!

Happy Holidays from Denver
 and from Michigan
Merry Christmas from our family to yours. Happy Holidays!


Sunday, December 4, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving

A little late, but Happy Thanksgiving! My Dad, Katie, and Maura went to Katie's family for dinner and fun was had by all. Before Thanksgiving Dennis Wiese came in town and everyone went out for dinner, below is what Dennis sent me on the visit. My Dad has been getting more speech therapy and the new therapist is a dream from what I've been told. It is amazing how one person can make a difference. Everyone has commented on the improvements. Thanks to Dennis for letting me know how the visit went!

Keri-

For your blog. 

I stopped by to see Dave Monday Nov 21. He was in great spirits. He took me on his rounds to see staff and his many friends. He preferred that I push him around, then used his good foot as a brake when he wanted to stop. He understood all I said, and was able to think out how he wanted to respond, but just can't find the words to do so. Katie somehow managed to keep his speech therapy going.

On Wednesday, Katie, Dave, Maura, and I went to Outback. All three of them looked super. Katie has her 'take Dave out to dinner technique' down to a science, and needed no help getting him from car to wheel chair and back again.  He ordered short ribs and I thought, "This is going to be interesting." Katie stripped the meat off the ribs and everything worked great. It looked like Dave had lost some weight and Katie has said he is very tired of the Martha T Berry food, which all adds up. 


Dennis

these pics aren't from Tgiving - they were from a few weeks earlier 
but I thought I would share

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Another Year Older!

Happy Birthday Dad!!!
Yesterday was my Dad's 72 birthday! If I can count right that is, he was born in 1939. He had a birthday dinner date with Katie and Maura with cake afterwards. I'm sure they had a good time. I've been meaning to post about my visit in early August but somehow didn't get around to it for 3 months - bad! In fairness I've been traveling a LOT! Including two trips to Europe - one for vacation (Paris) and one for work (Amsterdam, Germany). Now it's tough to remember all that I wanted to share. For some reason I woke up at 5am today (Saturday) so I guess it is as good a time as any to get caught up.
Maura and I busted Dad out one day for lunch and a drive through Mt. Clemens. He definitely knows exactly where he wants to go and how to get there. Honestly, if he wasn't my co-pilot I'm not sure that I could have found my way from downtown Mt. Clemens back to Martha T. Berry. Maura is so good with Dad. He can't always find the words he wants to say and she makes it fun for him to keep trying. 

I've heard from a few people that Dave is speaking better each day and I agree. Katie was able to get him back into speech therapy and she said he has a great new instructor that loves working with him, my Dad is a very good student. What I liked about this instructor is it feels like the first one to give suggestions on how Katie can work with him and suggested some outside resources as well. I can't wait for my next visit to see how he has progressed. Below is another picture from Maura's graduation - Dad and Kathy Wis. It was such a gorgeous day and he looked pretty handsome in his suit.
Well, I promise I will post right after my next visit while things are still fresh in my head. If you haven't been in for a visit in awhile, stop by and wish Dave a Happy Birthday! You know he'll be smiling when you walk in.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

A Quick Post

I was just in Michigan last week and I'll post about it soon. But first, here are some pictures I got from Maura from my visit in December 2010. We were out to dinner with Katie and my Dad at Outback.


Friday, May 27, 2011

Saving the Best for Last

On Monday I went to breakfast with Barb and Gwen which was fun as usual. I told Barb the story about my Grandparent's china and was surprised that she remembered more than my Uncle Chuck did. Barb had grown up in Marine City where my Grandma Bell grew up so she knew of their family. It was nice to get another perspective. And I could seriously listen to Gwen talk All Day Long.

Afterwards I went back to Tanya's and packed up and then waited out a flash rainstorm (typical Michigan) before leaving for a late lunch with Katie and Maura. We talked all about Maura going to college in the Fall - Lake Superior State! Following in her big sister's footsteps and heading North to the U.P. Then we all went over to visit my Dad. I brought my laptop to show him pictures from Maura's graduation on Saturday. If you have a Mac you know that iphoto organizes your pictures with big thumbnails. As I would scroll through the thumbnails to show my Dad something I thought he would like he would see something that caught his interest...some things I didn't even realize were there but he didn't miss a beat. Some of his favorites:

the Crow's Nest, that's Maura a few years ago
 the Cottage
where is the cottage on stilts? sadly, it's gone
 the Harsen's Island ferries way in the background
 graduation day
 ummm, Jillian Michaels, which Katie got a big kick out of
and then my Dad started denying that one caught his eye
hilarious, still a dude, and with good taste
our house
and how it relates to the lake next to our house
I think he was throughly impressed that I managed to get a house near
one of the only lakes in Denver - always a Flats Rat
Bernie on a boat on Torch Lake
 the Mecca - Batchelder Rd.
if you are within 50 miles, you MUST visit
it's required
 Belaire, Michigan where my Dad's family had a farm
hence Batchelder Road
 the Old Mission lighthouse
on the 45th parallel
He saw some things that he thought looked familiar, like Paris
but when I told them what they were, he was all, "no" with a movement of the hand
that said, move on to something that I know and care about
This was one of the best days I've had with my Dad since his stroke. Looking at old pictures with him and the girls was a good trip down memory lane. It felt almost like nothing had ever changed. He was so interested to look at all the pictures. It reminded me that he realizes more than I sometimes give him credit for, he picked out pictures from a small 1" square on the computer without his glasses that meant something to HIM. He knew the people and the places but not the names and he loved looking at the St. Clair Flats of course. I have been planning a photo book for him for awhile now, and this really showed me how much he would enjoy it. I got great shots of most of his friends and family this weekend and I can't wait to put his book together. 

If you are in the neighborhood, or even if you aren't, please stop buy and say hi to Dave. This time of year is a great time to take a stroll out to the gardens to soak up some sun. 15-30 minutes, we all have that to spare. If everyone visited for just 15 minutes once a month, he would be sick of us in no time. 

I'm hoping to come back in July.

keri